I think that I get what you mean. For me, it's like there are certain lifestyle traits that I live by -- vegetarianism, sXe -- that nowadays have almost become a trend or a suburban youth cliche.
want. It's when you start thinking, "I need to be this way" or "I need to not be this way" to attain the cultural status that we desire -- whatever niche it may be in.
I think that the biggest, most important goal is personal integrity. Staying true to yourself. Regardless of whether what you want to do collides or coalesces with whats trendy, even if we're saying, "I don't know if I want to wear that today; all of those Fall Out Boy kids wear it," we should bite the bullet and say, "I like it."
Basically, to me, the whole trying to be different just to be different -- the whole neo-punk mentality -- is sooooooo lame.
Okay, a couple of things. I've worried for years that I would outgrow my music scene because it's the hip indie kids who I've never totally resembled and may less as I get older. But I still love the music. So am I poser when I go to shows? Your worries about clothes made me think about that worry of my own. And I understand the clothing thing, but not as much since I'm not 30 or really very close to that.
I live in a bubble too. I forget that people don't know what a wiki is or that people are racist or that I'm totally foreign to some because I don't eat meat. I guess I don't forget these things - I try to actively think about them, actually - but that also doesn't mean I want to embrace that world to be more real or functional or whatever someone could say I would be.
I don't know if that makes us irresponsible. Someone has to push the edges, right?
Thanks for the book tip. Sounds like something I would love, and I need to get riled up more than most, so reading things like that are the way to do it!
I guess I kinda pre-agree with your scene statement KB. I, at 22, still dress the part of the scene that I consider myself a part of (hardcorish/metalish), but at the same time, aside from my girlfriend, I don't have any hxc friends. Besides going to shows and jamming to the tunes, I don't actually participate in the scene.
My thing is, when I'm done with college, and I'm teaching Biology, will I feel like "that guy"? Will Dan sans plugs and piercings fit in at shows? Will I be that old guy screaming along with the band looking like a goon because I look professional?
I think it takes a while to be comfortable with who you are rather than how you look. Nothing wrong with wearing Hello Kitty stuff at 30, but it might look silly to some. Does that matter?
Does how you are perceived change who you are? We all care how others see us but that doesn't mean that how others see us should affect our own self image. If someone thinks I am a turd, doe that mean I am a turd or can I still be a good person even with that person's thought existing?
Just my two cents. I think KillerB wouldn't agree that I really believe this, but people can (and maybe should) be how they are. Your clothes don't dictate who you are, they just send a message that may or may not be true. And people may be more or less attractive with certain clothes, but that doesn't make them more or less valuable or lovable.
And if Dan is rocking out as a 40-year-old someday and looking ridiculous in his button-down shirt and chinos, more power to him! I think that takes more courage and personal strength than when you rock out at a socially appropriate age!
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I think that I get what you mean.
For me, it's like there are certain lifestyle traits that I live by -- vegetarianism, sXe -- that nowadays have almost become a trend or a suburban youth cliche.
want. It's when you start thinking, "I need to be this way" or "I need to not be this way" to attain the cultural status that we desire -- whatever niche it may be in.
I think that the biggest, most important goal is personal integrity. Staying true to yourself. Regardless of whether what you want to do collides or coalesces with whats trendy, even if we're saying, "I don't know if I want to wear that today; all of those Fall Out Boy kids wear it," we should bite the bullet and say, "I like it."
Basically, to me, the whole trying to be different just to be different -- the whole neo-punk mentality -- is sooooooo lame.
Yep, we had fun at VloggerCon. Well, I sure did.
Okay, a couple of things. I've worried for years that I would outgrow my music scene because it's the hip indie kids who I've never totally resembled and may less as I get older. But I still love the music. So am I poser when I go to shows? Your worries about clothes made me think about that worry of my own. And I understand the clothing thing, but not as much since I'm not 30 or really very close to that.
I live in a bubble too. I forget that people don't know what a wiki is or that people are racist or that I'm totally foreign to some because I don't eat meat. I guess I don't forget these things - I try to actively think about them, actually - but that also doesn't mean I want to embrace that world to be more real or functional or whatever someone could say I would be.
I don't know if that makes us irresponsible. Someone has to push the edges, right?
Thanks for the book tip. Sounds like something I would love, and I need to get riled up more than most, so reading things like that are the way to do it!
I guess I kinda pre-agree with your scene statement KB. I, at 22, still dress the part of the scene that I consider myself a part of (hardcorish/metalish), but at the same time, aside from my girlfriend, I don't have any hxc friends. Besides going to shows and jamming to the tunes, I don't actually participate in the scene.
My thing is, when I'm done with college, and I'm teaching Biology, will I feel like "that guy"? Will Dan sans plugs and piercings fit in at shows? Will I be that old guy screaming along with the band looking like a goon because I look professional?
I shouldn't care, but I do.
I think it takes a while to be comfortable with who you are rather than how you look. Nothing wrong with wearing Hello Kitty stuff at 30, but it might look silly to some. Does that matter?
Does how you are perceived change who you are? We all care how others see us but that doesn't mean that how others see us should affect our own self image. If someone thinks I am a turd, doe that mean I am a turd or can I still be a good person even with that person's thought existing?
Just my two cents. I think KillerB wouldn't agree that I really believe this, but people can (and maybe should) be how they are. Your clothes don't dictate who you are, they just send a message that may or may not be true. And people may be more or less attractive with certain clothes, but that doesn't make them more or less valuable or lovable.
And if Dan is rocking out as a 40-year-old someday and looking ridiculous in his button-down shirt and chinos, more power to him! I think that takes more courage and personal strength than when you rock out at a socially appropriate age!
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